All of us have partial detachment because on many occasions we are not in sync with our relations and friends. When wish is not fulfilled, happiness vanishes, love reduces and a short lived sense of detachment develops.
When enchantment with one is over, attachment to another sprouts. One is divorced to marry other. The second wife thinks as if her love story is great but reality is that she does not know even meaning of the word love. She marries because she likes the man. Similarly the husband dumps first love for another love. It is so stupid call all this happening as love. Even the so called first love in no love because it cannot happen in the absence of self happiness. The media converts lust story into love story. Media has its own dictionary in which bold means ready to be bare and cause means pretext to bare, love means sex, chemistry means science of kissing and hugging, modern means regular drinkers, socializing means attending dance parties, free thinker means against religion…. the list is quite long.
The point is if you get to the bottom of anything you would find the motive of self happiness prevalent everywhere. All relations are based on the concept of self happiness and hence if someone loves you, he loves you for his happiness and claim the exactly opposite. Remove this self happiness, love reduces to zero. And hapiiness is replaced by unhappiness, love turns into hate.
We must get the facts right. We haven’t done it till date. If we deny the facts, we work on fiction. The fiction that there is love. Fiction that someone tries to make you happy. One will try to make other happy only if there exists self happiness. Live with facts not with fiction. Detachment will follow. Think of the base for any action – self happiness. Think the vitality – it comes from soul. Then the realization ‘I am soul’, then who is my relation? - God. All other relations are of body because we can never see soul. Bodily relations give bodily pleasures or sensual pleasures. Will they make me happy? They cannot because there is constant requirement of happiness for which a constant source of happiness is needed which sensual happiness cannot provide. Thus the conclusion that sensual happiness is not my goal, my goal is divine happiness. Constant deliberations are necessary.
As you think so you become. Think divine, you will enter in God’s divine realm one day. You will have all beautiful, all loving beloved-Krishn one day. But if you think of sensual happiness you will become sensual, you will get some material person who will make you unhappy if his happiness is not met. You will suffer from death and other ordeals. Make a better choice, select Krishn over others and seek the eternal love bliss forever..