So the way is not to give the mind a free hand in anything and everything. Mind has the habit of getting everything done according to its wishes. Just don’t allow that. Ask questions .Why is it needed? Is it going to benefit me in long term? Is it going to be useful in deciding good after life (life after death)? Is this enjoyment of yours going to put me under stress and trouble later? Will your demand force me to adopt unjustified and illicit ways? Will your demand make injustice? Will others forfeit their happiness because of your wrongful ways? Will your desire help in attaining eternal bliss or will it put me through the unending, vicious and tormenting cycle of infinite deaths and births?

And start saying NO to mind’s desires. Mind will first make a lot of noise in the form of frustration, restlessness, grief, anger and so on. Don’t pay attention. Ask counter questions to mind. ‘What was the problem if some one insulted? There is no reduction in body weight! Neither have you caught any disease! It is your problem in totality. It is you (mind) who feel the insult. You shouldn’t feel it. And even if you feel it, I don’t care. Someone saying something should not bother you. If there is botheration, the one who wanted to bother you has succeeded and you have lost. You should defeat the tormentor by keeping calm, by not allowing the negative result he wanted’. Whenever there is feeling out of insult, out of not getting something, out of failure, out of being neglected, tell mind,’You are the one who create feeling. Don’t create. You and me both will be happy.’

If mind demands mango give it banana. I mean work against its wishes. If mind demands luxurious bed, sleep on the ground with simple mat. If mind demands sugar, drink milk without sugar. At first, it will feel like vomiting. Let it be. Make mind to face the situations which will reduce ego. Mind wants respect. Subject it to instances of disrespect. Mind will learn how to remain unperturbed on insults. It will reach the state in which it does not change its tranquility because of outer situations.